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Creating #DramaFree Conversations

Are you finding it difficult to manage relationships? Always stressed out? Feeling frustrated or defeated? Surrounded by conflict, blame and repeating problems instead of clear thinking, agreement and action? Would you like some new tools and strategies to change the way you’re thinking about and reacting to the drama situations you find yourself in?

Creating #DramaFree Conversations is designed to help you reduce unnecessary conflict in your life, to move from drama to calm collaboration – at work, at home and in your community.

We have spent over 20 years supporting individuals and groups to detect the dramas they’re in or the dramas other people are trying to get them into.

During these two half-days online we will offer tools, including clean questions, to encourage you to get curious about your dramas, unpack the key pieces, separate evidence from inference, come to understand what is actually happening and your part in it. 

From this position of clarity, it’s possible to shift your attention towards what you would like to have happen instead. Just the act of unpacking drama can allow you to think and breathe more freely and become more creative in the options available to you.

You can’t always get what you want but you can take actions you are proud of. You don’t have to be going around the same old dramas day in and day out and wearing out your goodwill and patience.

We will explore the following themes:

  • What is drama? How can you detect it? What are the costs and benefits of drama?
  • When you're in drama, you're like what? What triggers you into drama?
  • Separating your drama into evidence, inference and impact.
  • What would you like to have happen? And what if that's not possible?
  • Clean Change Cycle: Outcome, Action, Feedback
  • Reflecting on your learning - and what happens next?

During the programme you will be able to try out different behaviours and get support and feedback from the group as well as the facilitators. Places are limited to 12.

Everyone who attends will receive a free pdf copy of So you want to be ... #DramaFree - your own journal to record your experiences as you go through this programme.

Who is it for?

  • Managers
  • Teachers
  • Parents
  • Anyone going through external or internal conflict and looking for resolution
  • Coaches looking for new tools to use with their clients

Frequently asked questions

What is Clean Language?

Clean Language is a simple set of questions developed by counselling psychologist David Grove. These questions are used with a person’s own words to direct their attention to some aspect of their own experience. Asking these questions in the right context often results in an interesting new insight or the recognition of some new possibility. And if that new possibility is then questioned using Clean Language, the result can be quite profound. Clean questions invite people to consider their experience from different perspectives and they are often surprised by their own capacity to generate new, powerful and useful ideas about their own experience.

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Who was David Grove?

David Grove was the creative genius who developed Clean Language, Clean Space and Emergent Knowledge - the clean approaches upon which the entire field of ‘clean’ has been built.

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What is the ICF and how does it relate to clean coaching?

ICF stands for International Coaching Federation, a leading global organisation for coaches
and coaching. The ICF is dedicated to advancing the coaching profession by setting high
standards, providing independent certification, and building a worldwide network of trained
coaching professionals.

The ICF defines coaching as: “Partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative
process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential. The
process of coaching often unlocks previously untapped sources of imagination, productivity
and leadership.”

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In this course, I got so many insights about big and small dramas in daily life situations. I have learned a lot about my own internal drama and how to handle challenging conversations in a better way. There is much more understanding now about the way people react and what might be going on for them.

Sabine Glatz

Creating #DramaFree Conversations is a brilliant event that really makes you think about the way language and behaviour influences what happens around us, whether it be in home or work life. It gives clear guidance on how to begin to change the dynamics to reduce drama and uses great examples to bring the whole thing to life.

Catherine Horner

Upcoming events

Creating #DramaFree Conversations

  • Places available
  • Monday 25 November to Thursday 28 November, 8am to 11.30am GMT each day
  • Online via Zoom
  • With Caitlin Walker PhD , Shaun Hotchkiss

Details & booking

Creating #DramaFree Conversations

  • Places available
  • Monday 25 November to Thursday 28 November, 1pm to 4.30pm GMT each day
  • Online via Zoom
  • With Caitlin Walker PhD , Shaun Hotchkiss

Details & booking

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