Are you finding it difficult to manage
relationships? Always stressed out? Feeling frustrated or defeated? Surrounded
by conflict, blame and repeating problems instead of clear thinking, agreement
and action? Would you like some new tools and strategies to change the way
you're thinking about and reacting to the drama situations you find yourself
Creating #DramaFree Conversations is an
evening event designed to identify drama and contempt in yourself and in
others. Once identified we’ll provide tools to help you to understand and
unpack your own dramas and to move from unnecessary conflict, towards curiosity
and collaboration - at work, at home and
in your community.
Who's it for?
- HR executives
- Project managers
- Healthcare workers
- Anyone going through external or
internal conflict and looking for resolution
- Anyone looking for new communication
tools to use with their customers or clients
We have spent over 20 years supporting individuals and groups to
detect the dramas they’re in or the dramas other people are trying to get them
We don’t have a magic wand for changing other people, but we
do have a strong clear process for reducing the time you personally spend in
During this workshop we’ll be sharing
tools, including clean questions, to encourage you to get curious about your
dramas, unpack the key pieces, separate evidence from inference, come to
understand what is actually happening and your part in it.
From this position of clarity, it’s
possible to shift your attention towards what you would like to have happen
instead. Just the act of unpacking drama can allow you to think and breathe
more freely and become more creative in the options available to you.
You can’t always get what you want but you can take actions you
are proud of. You don’t have to be going around the same old dramas day
in and day out and wearing out your goodwill and patience.
Come and join us to:
- Unpack your own dramas and recognise what
role(s) you tend to take on the Drama Triangle (persecutor, rescuer or victim).
- Explore some of the costs and benefits of
- Learn about different brain states and how to
recognise when you – and others – are in a less productive state, and ways you
can move to a more productive brain state.
- Discover how to use Clean Language questions
to uncover the hidden architecture of your drama states and of your desired
- Learn how to unpack your dramas into evidence,
inference and impact and so use this as the basis for giving yourself – and
others – feedback.
- Explore how to use a 'Clean Set Up' to clarify
what you want when you're with others – so reducing the possibility of drama
occurring in the first place.
- Consider how you will implement your insights
and learnings in your own context.
Frequently asked questions
What is Clean Language?
Clean Language is a simple set of questions developed by counselling psychologist David Grove. These questions are used with a person's own words to direct their attention to some aspect of their own experience. Asking these questions in the right context often results in an interesting new insight or the recognition of some new possibility. And if that new possibility is then questioned using Clean Language, the result can be quite profound. Clean questions invite people to consider their experience from different perspectives and they are often surprised by their own capacity to generate new, powerful and useful ideas about their own experience.
What participants say
"This is a brilliant event that really makes you think about the way language and behaviour influences what happens around us, whether it be in home or work life. It gives clear guidance on how to begin to change the dynamics to reduce drama and uses great examples to bring the whole thing to life."
Friday 13 December 2019 12pm-2.00pm
Federation House, Manchester (Greater),
With Marian Way, Eve Holt