Practice Group Report
The topic this evening was ‘working with physical symptoms’. We agreed we would start by asking about the symptom and to develop this into a symbol / metaphor, and then to find out what the symptom (or the client) would like to have happen. We started with a demo, where the symptom was ‘creaky knees’, which reminded the client of a creaky ship.
She was able to use this analogy to draw some conclusions about the relationship between ligaments, muscles and bones. She then went on to establish that, as well as balancing periods of rushing around with periods of relaxation (which she already does), she will (a) note in her journal how her knees feel now when she is sitting, standing, kneeling and walking, (b) research into what else she can do to help her knees feel good (e.g. massage), and (c) check in with how she is doing in three months time, noting again how her knees feel when sitting, standing, kneeling and walking.
After the demo, we split into pairs / threes for practice. I was fortunate enough to take the role of client and got some great insights into my belief system around health and well being, before making a promise to myself to take better care of my legs. Another participant developed a metaphor of a caster which could run up and down her back to relieve her back pain, and another noticed that a pain in her hand completely disappeared.
We also looked at what we had learned about facilitating cleanly:
- If you choose to ask a question about a word that is ‘wrong’ for the client – they will tell you.
- It’s important to gesture to the client’s non-verbals in their space, not your own. This helps the space become psychoactive.
- While we are not doing / saying the things that one normally associates with ‘empathy’, clients still feel that the facilitator is showing empathy, because they are using the client’s language and seem to understand completely how it is for them.
- The PRO (Problem, remedy, outcome) model can be extended to include other aspects of the facilitation process, e.g. necessary conditions… one facilitator now thinks in terms of ‘PRON’
By leaving his notebook behind and focussing on the client’s non-verbals, one facilitator found it was easier to track what was happening. Also, in the past if a client had said ‘no’ or ‘I don’t know’, it was difficult to know what to do next, whereas on this occasion he simply went to another aspect of the client’s landscape and asked about that.
- One of our newcomers found that during the demo he was listening for the questions and noticing that sometimes they sound odd (not grammatically correct). But when he watched one of the pairs, he paid attention to the client, and the metaphors that were arising, and noticed that he was getting curious about particular words.
- It’s important to have a clean intention for each question: it is about asking questions that will help the client to gain the information they need. (You can read more about this on James Lawley's blog)
Thank you to everyone who came along. I hope you all enjoyed the evening, and please do add any notes about your own experiences via the comments box below.
At our next practice group meeting on March 21, Jordan Collier and John Barlow will be leading the session. They will be presenting and demonstrating "Systemic Representations with Clean Language". This exercise, more simply understood as "Clean Constellations" caused quite a stir when presented by Lynn Burney at the Clean Conference last autumn.
Clean Constellations combines David Grove's ideas on space, psychoactivity and emergence with Bert Hellinger's famous Family Constellation work. Using audience members to represent important elements in their life, the client takes a privileged position outside of their personal process where they can watch the drama of their inner patterns and outer relationships acting themselves out in front of them. Not only do Constellations provide quite a spectacle for the observer, the client is able to make new insights and new connections from the very interplay of their constellated elements. As in other emergent processes, the system wobbles, deconstructs and eventually reorganises, providing a wonderful climax when the client steps back into their 'story', often finding that it has rather subtly changed.
We are likely to have time for one full constellation, along with a variant group emergent knowledge exercise as well as presenting an exciting way of creating "emergent rapport" within a group.
So there is room for this spatial activity, places at this session will be limited to 12 on a first-come, first-served basis, so please email me or give me a call (023 9221 5355) if you'd like to reserve a spot.
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