Modelling: Likes, Preferences and Dislikes

Practice Group Report

The topic for the main part of the evening was Likes, Preferences and Dislikes, which was inspired by a Developing Group topic from a few years ago. We explored (modelled) how we know we like something, how we know we prefer one thing over another and how we know we dislike something. To start with, those with some experience of Clean Language worked in pairs and beginners observed. Later our beginners took a turn in either the facilitator or client role, and everyone experienced some co-coaching in one of those roles.

Metaphors that emerged for liking were: vibrational resonance; a magnetic pull; a checklist; a scorecard; a sensation in the body; a fibre connection; a ready-brek glow. Prefering generally involved comparing - e.g. 2 checklists - which side outweighs the other - or 2 sensations in the body. Differences in colour, temperature and intensity were mentioned, and also whether things were experienced inside or outside of the body. Logic vs. emotion was also a consideration for one member of the group. We did not collect many examples of 'how you know when you dislike something', although one person experienced this as a bubble force-field.

We next had a discussion about the pros and cons of facilitating in pairs. Some thought it worked well: the two facilitators would come from different angles and ask different questions, and it encouraged the 'letting go' of a planned direction. Others were not so keen: it seemed there was less processing time for the client, and it was difficult for one person to know which facilitator to connect with. We agreed that a better 'set up' between facilitators may have improved things.

Finally, we reviewed the new meeting format. This received a definite thumbs-up, with both new and experienced facilitators feeling they had gained a lot from the meeting, and it seemed as though we had more time than usual. We also thought of different ways of organising the main meeting within the overall framework, which we'll be continuing with.

Tags: practice group, metaphor

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Marian Way

Company Director & Trainer, Portchester, Fareham
A highly skilled facilitator and trainer, Marian, who founded Clean Learning in 2001, has developed and delivered training across the world. She is the author of Clean Approaches for Coaches, co-author, with James Lawley, of Insights in Space and co-author, with Caitlin Walker, of So you want to be... #DramaFree. Marian is an expert Clean facilitator, an adept modeller, a programme writer and an inspirational trainer. She has a natural ability to model existing structures, find the connections between them and design new ways for people to learn. Marian was a leading innovator within the Weight Watchers organisation, which included developing the “points” strategy, a local idea that went on to become a global innovation. She is a director of both Clean Learning and Training Attention CIC, world leaders in clean applications for corporate, educational and community development. She designs our programmes and workbooks, leads workshops and teaches on all our courses. She's trained people in Great Britain, Russia, Sweden, Germany, Australia, Japan and the USA. Marian is also a recognised Clean Assessor.


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